Did You Fall for These 3 Tactics in Your Toxic Relationship?
There are many traits that characterise a toxic relationship with a narcissistic person. We become involved in the relationship, as expected, but this means that we can no longer see what an outsider would see. The three main tactics that stand out in Traits Of Toxic Parents my mind are the ones that make us have a tendency to stay far longer than is healthy.
There may be other names for these tactics, but here’s how I saw them. Do you recognise any?
A toxic partner who is obsessed with de-cluttering loves to do this for you as “a favour.” You’re not very good at this, so I’ll do it for you. I can see where you’re going wrong. Don’t worry, I’ll sort all of this out.
De-cluttering extends to all the different corners of your life. Your possessions, your values, your family, your friends. When they de-clutter you are left with the bare bones of your life, all ready to be redesigned, moved around, redecorated. By them. When you have your realisation, your big “OMG moment”, you’ll see that de-cluttering has led you into a life where it’s pretty much directed by your partner, you don’t have as much “stuff” (always be wary of a potential partner who remarks, “you’ve got a lot of stuff… “) and your friends and family are complaining they don’t see you as often as they’d like.
De-cluttering is always done with your stuff and your life; not theirs. Remember that, and in your new life, hang onto what’s yours.
The Parent Trap
I could write for days about this. Some days he’s the parent, some days he’s the child; never your partner and your equal. I’m not talking about the rituals we get into of daft communication that no one outside our relationships would understand, or the times you ask for help and advice… no, I mean the disciplinarian, disapproving, punishing behaviour. This behaviour can be flipped on its head at a moment’s notice, and you have no idea what sets it off. Being told that you’re not very good… here, let me do it, I can do that better; another manifestation is giving you the silent treatment, and then when you’ve been punished enough, being a model of concern.